July 1, 2012

Anonymous

Someone I was dating very often manipulated me into having sex with them (cry because they felt unattractive/unwanted, getting angry, ignoring my saying no - and continuing sex). They often (in other situations) fly off the handle as far as anger went, and have violent outbursts. I never “fought” because I was scared of what might happen. Because it wasn’t a violent attack it took a long time to come to terms and a long time for the effects to hit me. Now I cry/panic irrationally react to things.

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We had only gone on a few dates when he invited me to come over to go swimming. I was getting changed in a room with no lock on the door. There I was, naked and about to pull on my swimsuit bottoms, when the door flew open and he was there. I didn’t even have time to react before he was inside of me. He stopped thrusting and told me he was going to do something that would make me feel so good. He then stuck his finger up my butthole. He just laughed while I cried and begged him to stop.

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June 12, 2012

Anonymous

I was on the train today and a man sexually assaulted me. He took away my peace of mind and my wellbeing. I feel so unpure right now. I’m only 15 and I’m scared.

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April 29, 2012

Anonymous

Yesterday I thought I was ready to have sex with my boyfriend. (I was a virgin.) I agreed to having sex but a minute into it I started feeling weird, scared, disgusting, and just not ready to go through with it any longer. I asked him to stop and he began thrusting harder and it hurt me so bad. I started crying and saying “please stop” and he kept going. I don’t know why he wouldn’t stop and I don’t even know who is to blame. I asked Omegle (wrong move) apparently it is my fault.

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March 10, 2012

Anonymous

I was blackmailed into having sex for over a couple of years because he took naked photos of me without telling me, had a password on his phone and threatened to post these pics everywhere so everyone can see. The police “couldn’t” do anything about it.

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I never talk about this to anybody I know, but when I was 19 I was date-raped once while drinking alone in another man’s house and it was never prosecuted. Even though he even had photographic evidence of me, the detectives said that you couldn’t tell I wasn’t consenting in the footage, and that my rape tests came out inconclusive so they couldn’t prove I was raped. But what do you expect? When you are drugged, your muscles usually relax. You aren’t likely to show any signs of abrasion or bleeding or anything. 

Then when the PD found out that I was a porn star and used to be a drug addict, they pretty much didn’t believe my story and kept asking me over and over again if I was lying. It was really exhausting. Even though they tested me a week after the incident and my piss test came back clean, they still kept interrogating me, as if they didn’t believe my story. They thought that I might have willingly taken the drugs that were given to me because of my past as an addict. Because I was on drugs at the time of the rape, my memory was impaired and I would get flashbacks and then remember more and more of the story. So the investigators said that my stories were “inconsistent” and were trying to paint me out to be a fraud.

Everywhere I turned nobody would agree to prosecute. When the detectives even interviewed my assailant, my assailant even ADMITTED that I started screaming during intercourse (but made up some other reason for my screaming). The district attorney said they were still never going to prosecute, and said that 75% of rape cases usually never end up going anywhere. Even my own lawyer, who was working on a separate DUI case for me, suggested I drop the case. This took place right around the time the Kobe Bryant rape case was being sensationalized, and my lawyer said “Listen, they are going to tear your history apart if you take this to court. It’s best to drop this if you don’t want to be publicly humiliated.”

This has honestly made me really weary of reporting rape. And honestly, in the future, I probably will never bother reporting again unless it was a particularly brutal assault and I am confident I can prove it happened. All thanks to the insensitive dicks (detectives lol) who have made me give up on the system. From now on, I will probably take the law in my own hands and use my own firearms and self-defense techniques to defend myself.

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November 15, 2011

newwavefeminism:

found via The SAFER tumblr

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November 9, 2011

In our society, women are taught that it’s not okay to say no. Which might partially explain why when we do say it, we are very often ignored.

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November 8, 2011

National Study Finds Widespread Sexual Harassment of Students in Grades 7 to 12

On its survey of a nationally representative group of 1,965 students, the American Association of University Women, a nonprofit research organization, defined harassment as “unwelcome sexual behavior that takes place in person or electronically.” Over all, girls reported being harassed more than boys — 56 percent compared with 40 percent — though it was evenly divided during middle school. Boys were more likely to be the harassers, according to the study, and children from lower-income families reported more severe effects.

“It’s pervasive, and almost a normal part of the school day,” said Catherine Hill, the director of research at the association and one of the authors of the report.

Over all, 48 percent of students surveyed said they were harassed during the 2010-11 school year. Forty-four percent of students said they were harassed “in person” — being subjected to unwelcome comments or jokes, inappropriate touching or sexual intimidation — and 30 percent reported online harassment, like receiving unwelcome comments, jokes or pictures through texts, e-mail, Facebook and other tools, or having sexual rumors, information or pictures spread about them.

Whatever the medium, more girls were victims: 52 percent of girls said they had been harassed in person, and 36 percent online, compared with 35 percent of boys who were harassed in person and 24 percent online.

“I was called a whore because I have many friends that are boys,” one ninth-grade girl was quoted as saying. An eighth-grade boy, meanwhile, reported, “They spread rumors I was gay because I played on the basketball team.”

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November 7, 2011

Anonymous

It’s disturbing how the people who saw it happen are the ones who deny that it happened and even violently tell me to stop saying that it did happen, but the people who I have confided in have believed me and been as helpful as they can. I was fine, but now she’s threatening me again. I feel ill. She says I used her. Bullshit.

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