October 28, 2011

The Accidental Rapist — The Good Men Project

Most “good guys” take a woman’s firm “No!” for an answer. (Those who don’t are best left to the ministrations of our criminal justice system.) But lots of men are like the guy I was at 19—assuming that while “no means no” anything short of a firm “no” is either a “yes” or a “keep at it, boy, because you just might get a ‘yes’ soon.” Call it male sexual legalism, the first rule of which is “All that is not expressly prohibited is assumed to be permitted.” That legalism can turn many men into accidental rapists.

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    I would think anything other than a definite “yes” should always mean that you need to stop
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    Yes, this so much. I am not “playing hard to get”. I don’t like you. Go away.
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